Is Selfish really jus Self Love

I gotta talk about the words "selfish" and "self love" . I strongly feel that the word selfish is being overly abused, misused and treated so unfairly. It's been given a bad rep and being used as a tool for manipulation. I don't think there is anything wrong with being selfish(having self interest) because it's one in the same as love of self i.e. self love(having self interest). Let me explain my point of view. I think most of us don't truly operate from a place of self love and are almost afraid to. I recently had a conversation with a girlfriend of mine about self love. Which is why I'm now sharing with you. As I was saying, I was sharing with her that i had not be very loving to self for years. I'm a natural giver and I give tremendously, until there is no more to give. Through the years, what I was doing was not being fair to me, though. I thought about the sacrifices i had made opting to do for others and not myself, which led me to feelings of resentment towards love ones. I realize I gave more to them than I was giving to myself and then became bothered that they weren't doing the same. It was my fault, of course. I had a choice in the process. I could have choose differently. However, like most of us, I was raised with a sacrifice mentality. It's what you're suppose to do if you cared about someone. Looking at it a Lil more deeper the way my momma suggested, we're suppose to take from self(sacrifice)and give to someone else so that they are happy. In return you'll be happy because they are......mm mm, naw. Hind site, that's some b.s. I'm sorry it's straight b.s. I'm really not having a warm and fuzzy feeling, if I'm taking from me, imma just fake it and act humble towards the situation.I mean I'm jus saying. If I gave freely, then I'm happy. Moving on.......... the recipients of my lack of self love were being totally loving of self i.e. selfish and they weren't wrong. Once I realized that I truly lacked self love, I wanted to love me more. So, I began this self love journey.(I'm loving it!) See, I've often said "that I love me" but I had to question it. If I did love me would I have allow others or even myself to treat me wrongly or unfair. I wanted and still desire to feel what it really means to love me, when I say "I love me". I wanna feel it intrinsically. I made me first,right after the most high. I no longer make sacrifices for no one, period. If it takes away from me, which is a sacrifice, I'm not gonna be able to do it.....Sorry. I take care of me. I'm the only one who will make sure I'm getting what I deserve, what I need and what I want. I don't depend on some else to do the "Right Thing" for me, anymore. Give me "whats do" to me,that concept is dated and ridiculous.......HA! lol. Understand that I strive to do everything in a loving way. It's not acceptable for me to be malicious or spiteful ever. Now, if you ask of me and I am able to give or do whateva the case maybe, I will do and give generously without hesitation. Self love and selfish are interchangeable to me because i don't operate with ill intentions. When someone says to me, "you're selfish" i respond with "thank you, I'm glad you notice that i love me" :)
I'm still on my journey loving me more everyday. I like the me I see in the mirror.

Question: Are you selfish? Should you be? Self love is divine, it's a GREAT thing.


Jus Love
Michelle Madison
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