Love and Attachment

Often we feel our actions are spurred from the love we feel but could it be that it's just attachment. Love and attachment are separate and have nothing to do with the other. If you love someone you will love them rather in a relationship or not, it's love. Love has no parameters. I had a friend to share something with me maybe three years or more ago. I asked if he had ever been in love. He responded he didn't know if he had but he knew for sure that he had been attached. I thought..........mmmm, interesting. I had at this point in my life never heard such a response. He went on and explain that, he felt feelings of attachment led him to act in the way he did during the relationship and once he had separated from his ex. He was use to hearing her voice, seeing her and spending time with her. He missed that interaction with her more than her really. We are creatures of habit and their relationship was for lack of a better word had become "Habit". In attempt to "work it out" they would see each other from time to time but once they came together he would realized why they were ex and not current lovers. At that time, they truly weren't compatible and it was obvious. Neither of the two were up for expansion. There core issues were still there and no matter what they tried they soon returned to feelings of unhappiness. They weren't able to make the relationship work. I do think that by his definition of love he didn't love her and maybe she didn't either. They had to many rules in place to many "if you love me you would........" to allow love to flow. They were existing with each other close hearted. Basically living in fear of what the other would do if they let love flow in or out. Love is always available though and you can choose to give and receive it. However it has truly nothing to with habit or behavior. Attachment, jealousy, anger, fear, hurt, sadness, frustration, control, pain, manipulation, etc................ those are words opposite of love, stagnating the full expression of our love . Most cases we love we just don't allow. Love isn't the reason you do or don't do something it's gonna be there regardless, you are the reason. Allow and I say strive to love without attachments to certain outcomes. 

Increase the Love 

Michele Madison